Transforming Your Inner Critic
Why would we ever try to silence an ally instead of partner with it to form a better-functioning allyship? Wouldn't that make more sense?
The Myth of Self Awareness
If I were practicing self awareness 10 years ago I would’ve been aware that my assholish guard was covering up deep, deep anguish. I would've known that the anguish I felt wasn't caused by any of the people I was behaving that way toward. But I wasn't aware of that.
What They Don't Tell You About Meditation
The point isn't to empty your mind. It's to observe it. Here's how.
The Challenge of "Authenticity"
Hurting someone’s feelings and causing them harm are two different things.
"Why Do I Keep Attracting Them?"
That question never helped me do anything but drown in my helplessness. What did help me was to get curious about...
The Sunny Side of Healing
Trauma tells us the loss of anything we love is dangerous. The pain is too big to bear. But it is a gift to ourselves to realize we can surrender this experience. This story. We can write a greater one.
Reflection Prompt: Your Life / Your Mind
Focus on a pattern in your life that you want to change. If you’re used to experiencing these patterns as something that happens to you, or something someone else is doing to you, we’re going to give you your power back really quick...
Are You Setting Boundaries, or Erecting Barriers?
We can define barriers as the roadblock version of boundaries. Meaning: they’re not here to repair the relationship or bring us closer together. They’re here to block connection and intimacy instead.
Healing Is / Not...
Healing is not about having a "calm nervous system".
It's about having one that lives in
How to Feel Your Feelings Instead of Intellectualizing Them
The issue isn't that our feelings grow so big they overwhelm us. It's that we shrink to become them, because we've forgotten the rest of who we are.
